Five Ways Your Partner Can Support You During Postpartum

Support is critical during postpartum, and your partner, family, and friends can significantly relieve your stress with their help. Here are five ways they can support you after birth.

The postpartum period is a time of excitement and newness but can also be a time of challenge. Like any significant transition in life, there may be moments of pure joy accompanied by moments of frustration – sometimes minutes after the other – as you experience the adjustment of a new baby in your life.

mom kissing her newborn baby in a hospital gown postpartum

Receiving support from your partner or your support network can positively impact your mental health and recovery during this period. There is no shame in asking for help.

Your support network is often wondering how to be helpful, and one of the most valuable things you can do is to be specific in your needs and ways that they can help.

Five ways your partner (or village) can support you

Below are a few ideas of ways for others to support you and your baby while recovering from birth.

1. Help with household tasks

With a new baby, the routine often consists of feeding, soothing, and sleeping on repeat. Your primary focus is the baby, and most other priorities fall to the bottom of your to-do list.

One way your support network can be helpful during the postpartum period is by helping with other tasks.

Some examples might be coming over and doing a load of laundry (bonus points for folding!). Another idea is to order your favorite lunch or dinner meal and deliver it to your house.

You can also create a grocery list ahead of time of the items you often buy and send them to anyone who offers to help once the baby is here. Even something as simple as offering to hold the baby so you can take a shower and have a few minutes to yourself can be helpful.

2. Listen, listen, listen

The experience of becoming a parent is a significant transition and one that often involves an identity shift.

It’s normal to have a range of emotions during the postpartum period, and having a partner or support network who can lend a listening ear as you talk through some of these emotions can be vital.

The skill of listening to listen (without the intention of offering advice) is a true art that can significantly impact a new parent.

new mom friends talking on the couch

3. Encourage during challenging moments

There may be moments when you doubt yourself, and your support network can remind you that you’re doing a great job.

We are often most critical of ourselves, and it can be hard to acknowledge your personal growth and achievements, but your partner or support network has a front-row seat to this journey and can encourage you when you have these moments.

4. Initiate conversation around the division of labor

A new baby brings with it a host of new responsibilities. Having conversations around the division of labor and who is responsible for what before the baby arrives can help to ensure expectations are being met once the baby does arrive.

Who will take out the trash and recycling? Who will order diapers when they are running low? It’s important to talk about this before life becomes busier with a baby.

In the book Fair Play, author Eve Rodsky outlines a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a new way to divvy chores and responsibilities.

dad putting on baby diaper

5. Remind you to find humor

Laughter is an instant mood booster, and some comedic relief can be welcome in those first few weeks after birth.

Whether it’s the fact that you and your baby may both be in diapers or the funny noises your baby makes when they sleep, there are moments worth laughing about, and your support network can remind you of that.

Watching comedy can also be an excellent way to pass the time during those nighttime feedings.

Final thoughts on support during the postpartum period

While these are just a few ways your partner or support network can be supportive, being open to support during the postpartum period is the first step.

Caring for a new baby is rewarding and challenging at the same time. Identifying ways that your village can support you during this time will allow you the space to bond with your baby as you get to know this new version of yourself.

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Carly Barnes

I'm a healthcare leader with 10+ years of experience bringing innovation and technology to top health systems and technology companies. Beyond my professional interests, my most important role is that of a mother. I gave birth to my daughter, Allie, in January of this year and have been navigating the journey into motherhood ever since. I find Hello Postpartum incredibly helpful for the million and one questions I have had along the way and also find the resources comforting during the challenging moments. Throughout my pregnancy, birth, and postpartum experience, I discovered a number of gaps in the resources available to parents, and as a result, hope to contribute to develop more resources for those in this journey.

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